January 10, 2010
Disappointed
I don’t know if I am being overly sensitive, but I’ve grown increasingly disappointed with a group of friends that I considered to be close and dependable. Thanks to the open window of social networking sites I’ve been able to follow friends and their adventures from the convenience of my laptop computer. I can see their life related posts and follow their photographs which make me feel like I’m there with them. Only problem: It seems like I’m never really THERE anymore.
I’ve noticed my “friends” venturing off and hanging out with the same inner circle group of friends with the exclusion of my husband, child and I. Anyone who knows me knows that my daughter is like my chapstick.. I bring her everywhere I go. Despite being a 20 something year old mom, I personally am happiest when I am with my little one and hubberoonie at home or at a family friendly social event. I’m not saying that all young parents are neglectful but the young mothers I know kind of are! They’re always seem to be leaving their kids with their parents or inlaws to live out their life as a young member of this society.
Maybe it’s just me but when I had my daughter at 21 I knew that my party days were going to have to be put on hold for a greater good. Well back to the friend issue. I’ve noticed them all hanging out, taking roadtrips and going to club/lounge events without inviting the hubbs and I. I assume they didn’t bother inviting us because they knew it wasn’t our cup of tea but personally, it doesn’t hurt to ask. We all grab lunch/dinner here and there. We hang out a few times a month when our schedules jive. But I have noticed my friends leaving us out more and more.
Not to brag but my child is a total socialite. She’s not your average 3 year old. At times you kind of forget that you’re talking to a child and not a peer. I’m incredibly proud of how outgoing she is and resembles me in 1001 different little ways. In the past when our friends did hang out with my family and I it was great. They all love her like as if she was all of their own blood nieces which I truly love and appreciate. I would safely say that the relationship with them is genuine. My daughter knows all of our friends as “Auntie and Uncle”. That’s how close we are/were? Despite us all being around the same age, I’ve noticed that we are clearly at different levels in our life. The hubbs and I do have a child and deal with the challenges of dual work schedules and now the life adventure of purchasing our very first home. Our friends all work but are kid-free and some of them are in commited relationships but don’t live with their significant others. They have decent paying jobs which help fuel their semi-lavish lifestyles of random shopping trips and weekly roadtrips to LA and Vegas.
I can’t and don’t expect them to be like me. I am sure they aren’t used to having to schedule dinner around a child’s bathtime or bedtime. Random lunch dates aren’t so easy to plan when you have nap schedules to consider. I guess I just miss feeling “included”. I know that I am doing the right thing and If I could do it all over again I wouldn’t change a thing. I guess my silver lining is knowing that when I am 42.. my daughter will be 21 and I will be able to really LIVE LIFE and not have a child to worry about. Hah.. I’m doing the math and assuming that by 42 my friends will be dealing with preteens 🙂
Revenge is SWEET.
I would never think twice. NEVER EVER.
Mothers make it look easy. But as fellow mothers will agree, being a parent includes several sleepless nights, a total adjustment to your life in general and ultimate sacrafices that are made without hesitation. It is a fulltime job above anything else. It at times is a thankless job when dealing with an upset child. Tears are usually shed, sometimes a combination between parent and child. But at the end of the night when good night kisses are exchanged parents know in their heart that they wouldn’t change a thing<3
A little about me
I needed an outlet, other than my husband and pet pufferfish. I can type a hell of a lot faster than I can write so I figured I’d blog rather than write in an actual Journal. I entertained the thought of a journal but then realized they dont run cheap! Call me fruggle but I am not going to pay $6 for a book that doesnt even come with it’s own fancy pen. Ehh.. blogging is free and figured the $6 saved could go to groceries or my much needed eyebrow waxing!
So a little about me. My name is Rachel and I’m a 25 year old mom to an amazing soon to be 4 year old little girl named Raevin Ann. I am happily married to my high school sweetheart Vincent and we will soon be going on our 8 year anniversary in June. We both work. He’s an industrial aeriel mechanic and I work for the Chief of Internal Medicine for Kaiser. Not only do I work.. but I am also going to school to complete my dream of becoming a nurse. It’s a lot to juggle but hell.. I love the mayhem and the booked schedule. Call me crazy but I really do run best on little sleep and tons of caffine.
Being a 20 something year old mom has forced me to grow up and prioritize what is really important in life. Thru the blog I hope to inspire, connect and share of my thoughts with other moms and/or dedicated readers.
Even if no one cares to read thats fine. I need this.. Like everything else we do in life.. we have to do it for ourselves before thinking of anyone else!
Ciao.
Because I Said So... 